Even though talking with others about your experiences of loss and grief may be difficult, it is important. People around you may not recognize your losses or your grief. It can be hard to acknowledge loss and grief when others see you as someone who should be grateful to be alive, regardless of what has happened. Grief can also be hard to acknowledge when others find it difficult or impossible to listen to the intense feelings that can come with grief.
If your friends or family members act like they don’t want to talk to you, remember that they may not be used to talking about grief. They may really want to help you, but don’t know how. You can explain to them that you need someone to listen to you and support you. That you don’t expect them to make everything better, you just need them to listen to you. It may not be easy, but it is important to let others know what you need.
It may seem strange to suggest that you might have to be the one to reach out to others, but many people believe they don’t know how to be supportive and offer comfort during difficult times. They may fear that they will upset you by talking about your losses or the future. We have provided a Fact Sheet called Supporting Someone Who Experiences a Loss Pass, it on to your family and friends.
Be patient with yourself and others who expect you to "get over it." You never really "get over it." It is something you do come to terms with in your life. If you are uncomfortable talking about your loss and grief with your family or friends, a counselor or a support group may be an option.
Grief that is not resolved can lead to depression and can stop you from moving forward in your life. If you feel your grief is interfering with quality of life or friends are expressing concern, consider reaching out for some support from a counsellor.